Book review: Detox je Leven by Marjan Decat
28 octobre 2021
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🌧️ What do you do on a drizzly Sunday afternoon?
🍷 Jazz music, a glass of wine and browsing through the bookcase again.
Randomly grabbing a few books and reading a few passages.
My eye fell on the book Detox je Leven (Detox your Life) by Marjan Decat. I bought it two years ago on the advice of a former colleague. I hadn't noticed it in the bookcase for a long time but yesterday it somehow attracted me.
I got stuck on the following quote: -
A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks he becomes.
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🦉 What we think has a direct impact on how we feel
🦉 We can decide whether we fill ourselves with nourishing or toxic energy
🦉 We decide how we live our lives and how we look at what comes our way
🦉 We all have our own internal truth; releasing it can be very enriching
🦉 Our ego is a self-image we want to comply with, often to protect ourselves
These insights made me think:
👩🎓 If you feel bad about something, confront the thought patterns or internal truths that are at the root of it.
👩🎓 To change your feeling, try to change your thinking.
👩🎓 If there is a big gap between who you are and who you would like to be, your ego is probably playing tricks on you on a regular basis.
Interesting to start the new working week with.
Struggles of a manager
Managers are
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- lack self-confidence
- don’t know how to go from being a colleague to being a boss
- need to loosen up on the command & control leadership style
- must let go of the (technical) expert status
- cannot give or accept constructive feedback
- feel pressure to perform as manager
- have difficulty building relationships
- want to be liked by everyone or want to be the ‘bad boss’
- play the hero
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- stay too involved in operations
- have trouble prioritizing
- cannot delegate
- fear conflict situations
- disconnect from the team
- deal with flawed strategic thinking
- do not relate to higher management
- lack clear communication skills
- remain not self-aware
- avoid difficult conversations
- miss political antennas
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- need mental preparation as successor
- need to be able to lead big changes ahead
- need to learn to be emotionally resilient and in control
- need to learn to make big decisions fast without all the information
- must become persuasive presenters
- need to learn how to cultivate their own personal brand
- need to learn how to lead by example
- manage by trust, not by fear
- need to overly develop empathy
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