Book review: Detox je Leven by Marjan Decat

Book review: Detox je Leven by Marjan Decat

28 octobre 2021
Marie Croes
  • 🌧️ What do you do on a drizzly Sunday afternoon?

    🍷 Jazz music, a glass of wine and browsing through the bookcase again.

    Randomly grabbing a few books and reading a few passages.

    My eye fell on the book Detox je Leven (Detox your Life) by Marjan Decat. I bought it two years ago on the advice of a former colleague. I hadn't noticed it in the bookcase for a long time but yesterday it somehow attracted me.

    I got stuck on the following quote:

  • A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks he becomes.

  • 🦉 What we think has a direct impact on how we feel
    🦉 We can decide whether we fill ourselves with nourishing or toxic energy
    🦉 We decide how we live our lives and how we look at what comes our way
    🦉 We all have our own internal truth; releasing it can be very enriching
    🦉 Our ego is a self-image we want to comply with, often to protect ourselves

    These insights made me think:

    👩‍🎓 If you feel bad about something, confront the thought patterns or internal truths that are at the root of it.
    👩‍🎓 To change your feeling, try to change your thinking.
    👩‍🎓 If there is a big gap between who you are and who you would like to be, your ego is probably playing tricks on you on a regular basis.

    Interesting to start the new working week with.

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